Overcoming blogger envy

UK Fashion and Lifestyle blogger
UK Fashion and Lifestyle blogger
UK Fashion and Lifestyle blogger
UK Fashion and Lifestyle blogger
UK Fashion and Lifestyle blogger

I am a girl (in case you hadn't noticed) and - I don't know about you guys - but I'm pretty sure us girls have this whole envy/jealousy thing down. In fact, I'd go as far as saying that I could probably go right ahead and list it on my CV as one of my most-used skills, right in between my talents for watching an entire TV series in one weekend and eating a McDonalds double cheeseburger in less than a minute. I can also say the alphabet backwards, but hey, let's not get too impressive here.

So anyway, despite my extensive list of useful talents, I am very much a jealous sort of gal - and it's probably my biggest downfall. Being surrounded by (quite literally) hundreds of thousands of bloggers day in, day out, can it can do crazy things to a girl's confidence. One minute you're on top of the world, the next you're floating around in your PJs for days on end questioning everything that you do, and beating yourself up about the most irrelevant things that - in hindsight - just do not matter in the slightest.

Take a few weeks ago for example. I was sitting at my desk, minding my own business, when I was contacted by a company who were putting out feelers for an upcoming campaign. Pretty exciting right? That was, until the company backed out from the collaboration and decided to go with a different blogger who they felt fit their target audience better. Bummer. But whatever, this sort of thing happens all the time in the blogging world - I can take it.

Two hours later and I was contacted again - this time by a well known publication. A few weeks prior to this they asked me to create content for them to go in their magazine, which I (very excitedly) agreed to. I opened up the email in hopes to see some sort of screen grab of my feature or something, but instead the email simply informed me that the magazine had decided to scrap my feature. Ouch. Not gonna lie, that one did hurt a bit. But again, it is what it is.

Then - in my semi-feeling-sorry-for-myself state - I decided to hop on over to Instagram for a bit of lunch time procrastination (also known as a self-loathing session). Big mistake, because now, for the next twelve hours all I'll be doing is asking myself questions. How do these bloggers look so great all the time? Why is their life so much more interesting? How did they get so many followers? Why did my photo of a cup of coffee not get as many likes as them? I feel crazy even writing that.

But I guess that's just the name of the game in blogging isn't it? It's basically a bunch of girls passively competing with each other to get the next job or reach their next follower milestone. If you're the one getting the job, chances are someone else is missing out because of that, and vice versa. I think blogging must be one of the only industries that someone's worth is (generally) based on the amount of numbers they can rack up on one platform. The more followers you have, the more opportunities you get, the higher you're ranked in the blogging community. The higher you're ranked in the blogging community, chances are the more you're going to get paid. When there are bills to pay, why wouldn't we want to be the best at what we do?

Now obviously I know it's not actually a competition between us bloggers. I mean, despite getting jealous about silly things, I'm seriously proud of all the bloggers out there making a name for themselves. Like, just think about it. These people are getting recognised, making money and (sometimes) even turning themselves into celebrities by, well, by just being themselves.  Which makes envy and jealousy a completely useless thing to feel. Take for example the lovely Lydia Millen (who is forever a source of my insecurities thanks to her all-round perfect genetic make up). I'm jealous of Lydia for doing so well, and looking how she does. Can I look like her? No, not unless I spend my entire life savings on surgery (wouldn't that be creepy). So why should I spend so much time thinking about it? Can I ever do what she's doing? No, not exactly. I mean, who knows what the future might hold for lil old me, but that girl - like all the other successful bloggers out there - is doing well for doing what she does best. Is ther best, my best? No, it's probably not. So again, why dwell on it? If you can't become that person, stop thinking about it and focus on the person you can be, which is yourself. 

I guess it's also important to note that when it comes to social media and blogging, things are never quite how they seem. I like to keep everything I do as transparent as possible, but even so, you'll never 100% know me just through a series of blog posts and pictures. Could you imagine if I blogged what I actually did every day of my life? It would just be a series of University essays and leggings with holes in. Not the most instagrammable things in the world, I must say.

I guess what I'm trying to say here, is that we as online-folk tend to only show off the things we want people to see, in the best filter possible. I mean isn't that essentially a blogger's job half the time? Encouraging others to buy into things (be it a sweater or a lifestyle)? I'm not denying that some of our fellow-bloggers aren't absolutely killing it in pretty much every aspect of life, but - and this is my non-jealous, fairly clear-thinking head talking - I refuse to believe that anyone's life is as perfect as their Instagram shows it to be. Think about it - would you really be jealous of their jet lag and tax returns, or even the nasty comments? Just think of that next time you get that dreaded blogger envy. And next time I get it? I'll be sure to log out of Instagram ASAP.

Do you guys experience a bit of blogger envy? How do you deal with it?


What I'm wearing:

Bershka beanie hat (similar from Missguided) *
Bershka leather jacket (Similar from Noisy May) *
Bershka striped top (similar from Warehouse) *
Bershka flared jeans (similar from Missguided) *
Bershka bag (similar from Kurt Geiger) *
Bershka slip ons (similar from Vans) *

[Head on over to the Bershka BScene blog to see more snaps from this shoot!]

Braun Silk-épil 5 review #breakfree

Braun Silk-epil 5 epilator review
Braun Silk-epil 5 epilator review
Braun Silk-epil 5 epilator review
Braun Silk-epil 5 epilator review
Braun Silk-epil 5 epilator review

I'll be the first person to admit that I am a hairy, hairy girl. And sure, this seems to have benefited me in terms of (head) hair growth and the general density of my brows, but - where everywhere else is concerned - its been more of an annoyance than a blessing. Can we get a #hairygirlproblems trending over here? Man, I'm glad we're all friends here. Could you imagine how awkward it would be telling complete strangers about my hairy limbs? Oh, wait..

Anyway, I know I'm not the only one out there struggling with #hairygirlproblems (seriously trying to plug that one eh?) so when I was given the opportunity to try out the Braun Silk-épil 5 Wet and Dry Epilator* I couldn't exactly say no - especially with a holiday coming up in the next few weeks. I mean, I don't know about you guys, but stubbly legs and a five o clock shadow (again, on my legs) doesn't exactly scream 'beach babe', does it? Something had to be done.

So I guess I should talk a bit about epilating, which is basically really, really fast tweezing that keeps body hair at bay . I've had a really cheap epilator for a few years now, and it worked, but it also hurt like crazy and took multiple 'sessions' to fully de-hair my fuzzy female body. After a while I would just give up and go straight back to my disposable razors. Hello, ingrown hairs and goodbye money. However since trying Braun's little variation I'm basically a changed woman. No, seriously. The amount of hair on my body has decreased to a level that I can actually pass for a woman now, as opposed to some form of mystical wildebeest. 

So what makes it so special? I'll tell ya! With twenty eight individual tweezers the Braun Silk-épil 5 picks up near enough every hair on the body, including hairs that are 0.5mm in length. Like every other epilator, It's not completely painless, but it's a lot more bearable than any other that I've tried in the past and - since you're able to use it in the bath or shower - it means that beginners (or wimps like me) can use it with ease. Better yet, the more you use the Silk-épil 5, the more comfortable it'll feel on your skin. Not only that, but - with constant use - this little miracle worker can actually help to slow down your hair growth, which means less hassle and more super soft legs. How did I survive the entire summer without it?

This post was sponsored by Procter & Gamble, however all thoughts are very much my own!

What I'm wearing:

Forever 21 faux leather jacket
Miss Selfridge 90s crop top *
Forever 21 side split skirt *
Miss Selfridge Cuba heels *
ASOS cat eye sunglasses *

#ShareYourStyle with Zalando, Shopstyle & The Apartment

Ph: Dina Tsesarsky for The Apartment

Ph: Dina Tsesarsky for The Apartment

Ph: Dina Tsesarsky for The Apartment

Ph: Dina Tsesarsky for The Apartment

Ph: The Styleograph

Ph: The Styleograph

Ph: Tom Martin for The Apartment

Ph: Tom Martin for The Apartment

Ph: Ashley Verse for The Apartment

Ph: Ashley Verse for The Apartment

Ph: Tom Martin for The Apartment

Ph: Tom Martin for The Apartment

Ph: Ashley Verse for The Apartment

Ph: Ashley Verse for The Apartment

Ph: Shopstyle

Ph: Shopstyle

Ph: Ashley Verse for The Apartment

Ph: Ashley Verse for The Apartment

Ph: The Styleograph

Ph: The Styleograph

Sorry for the lack of communication lately! Fashion Week, flu and starting my final year at University has kind of made me a bit of a blob - for sheer lack of a better word. I feel like I have ever intention to post to my hearts content, but when it really gets down to it all I can seem to do is eat my weight in food and/or nap for hours.

But with all that being said, last week I did manage to actually climb out of my bubble and climb onto a train to London for day two of Fashion Week. Those of you that already stalk me on Twitter and Instagram will know this already, but I was very kindly sent up to London to take part in a shoot with Shopstyle, Zalando and The Apartment to help promote Zalando's #shareyourstyle campaign. I'm guessing since us bloggers have developed quite the knack for (and by that I mean, I personally have nothing better to do with my time than) sharing and posting our outfits online, we were the perfect candidates. I mean, what's one more hashtag to add to the list?

So that Friday morning I arrived at The Apartment (which was located in a filming/recording studio this season) and obviously my first priority was food - specifically as much as I could get my hands on. I know Fashion Week is meant to be all about fashion and everything, but damn, fashion folk know how to feed people. I'm pretty sure I went up a dress size just by being there.

Either way, then it was time to get our hair and makeup did by the beauty team, with a complimentary hand and foot massage by the lovelies ladies at Jurlique. We then had the pleasure of meeting streetstyle photographer The Styelograph, who was going to be shooting each of our Zalando looks. Heh, I've only been following him for like forever. No biggie Steph.

So about them looks! First of all, I had no idea Zalando stocked so many brands (around 1,500 or so), so when it came to going through the racks of edited pieces it was a huge surprise for me to come across brands like IRO and Tiger of Sweden, as well as other familiar names such as Michael Kors and Calvin Klein. Needless to say I snapped up that CK shirt pretty damn fast.

First look

Freaky Nation leather jacket
Calvin Klein CK top
Dorothy Perkins suede skirt
Whistles Azara heels


Second Look

Bik Bok green jumper
Dorothy Perkins skirt
Michael Kors tote bag
Zign Nero boots

Thank you to Shopstyle, Zalando and The Apartment for having me!
Don't forget to share your style using the hashtag (you guessed it) #shareyourstyle

When to say no to blog opportunities

I don't know about you guys, but as a blogger I'm constantly inundated with hundreds of emails each and every day (granted, a large percentage of those emails are mostly centred around penis enlargement pills and/or Candy Crush invites from my Mum..) asking me to promote a product, review a service or simply guest post on someone else's website. Since more and more companies are beginning to understand the influence bloggers and internet people can have, the amount of opportunities that arrive into our inboxes are only going to increase. 

Now obviously I feel very, very lucky (and sometimes completely unworthy) to even be considered for some of these different jobs, but I can't go around accepting everything that pops into my Gmail account without sacrificing my readership (AKA you sexy people) and generally working my fingers to the bone. So sometimes you do just have to suck it up and politely said 'no thank you'. It might seem a little counterproductive, but trust me, the more picky you are with the work you accept, the more brands will respect you, and the happier you'll be with your blogs content overall. I mean, did you really want to review dog poop bags for the sake of a free £10 voucher? Maybe not. So here are some questions to ask yourself before accepting (or denying!) an opportunity.

Does it fit with the style of my blog?

See above - do dog poop bags really fit with my blog? Considering I don't even have a pooch (woe is me) I'd say not really. I mean, sure, it's all down to you and how you feel bout what's on offer, but if you want to keep your blog to a certain standard ten it's best waiting around for the better, more relative opportunities to come about. I always say that if it's something I could write about without making it look like an ad, then it probably fits with my usual blogging style - if not, well, then it might be a good idea to let someone else have this one.

What's in it for me?

Whether you're just starting out as a blogger or someone that does it as a full time job, if you're doing something for someone else you need t make sure there's something in it for you. This could be anything from free products, to actual payment, to promotion on social media. Either way, you need to make sure you're not constantly working for free, and that you're going to benefit from your partnership as well. You wouldn't serve tables all day for free, so why give away your skills for free too? If a brand is reputable, they'll compensate your time in some shape or form.

Is it worth doing?

Similarly to the above - f you are getting compensated for your work, you need to make sure it's actually worth your time. Think of your time spent on your blog like any other job. If it tales you an hour to write a blog post, a product worth (or more than) minimum wage is probably worth it (if it' something you want, of course). But what if the work your doing will take around ten hours in total? If you feel like you deserve more than a free pack of face wipes, you probably do.

Are there too many demands?

Sometimes PR companies do have a few regulations for you to follow if you agree to work with them, which is expected, but sometimes those requirements turn into a huge list of demands that give you little to no freedom for making the post your own. If it sounds like the company are asking too much of you, or you simply don't feel comfortable fulfilling everything they ask, offering them an alternative. If not, pass it on..

Am I breaking the rules?

There are so many laws and rules that come with blogging these days (check out my blog post all about blogging rules to follow for more info) that it can be hard to stay u to date with what's what sometimes. In the past I've had companies ask me to create posts that don't quite coincide with the law. I've obviously denied them, but I know of other bloggers that have said yes just because they weren't clued up on the legalities of things. It's worth swotting up on to make sure you don't get yourself into trouble further down the line!

Does it sound a bit spammy?

Copy and paste emails are generally a no go for me, because they usually end up being more spammy than anything else. For this sort of offer, I usually send back a bog standard (yet still polite) no thank you email, but if it does seem super spammy in a 'this will eat your computer' type of way', I put that email where it belongs: in the spam folder. Sometimes of course these emails may just look spammy, as opposed to actually being spammy, but I always think that, if they can't even bother to write an email to me by name as opposed to 'Dear blogger' or (my personal favourite) 'Dear webmaster', then they're probably not the best sort of company to work with in the first place. Unless your first name is actually 'blogger' or 'webmaster'..

Of course these are all personal to me, but hopefully this blog post helped you guys in some shape or form! Oh and uh, sorry about this Tip Tuesday being on a Wednesday - the days kind of got the best of me this week..oops. Leave your own tips in the comments below for others to take a peak at!

How to get photographed at Fashion Week

I'm really really bad at getting my photo taken - I've said it before, I'll say it again, and realistically I'll say it until I'm around ninety two years old and I either stop caring or simply go senile and forget that I hate having my photo taken. Either way, it's not something I tend to look forward to on a daily basis, regardless of how many photos you've probably seen of me on here in the past twelve months. 

Fashion Week is just another one of those situations that - because of what I do as a blogger - can result in a snap or two throughout the day (you know, depending on whether I actually decided to iron my shirt). And since London Fashion Week officially kicks off tomorrow I've opted to make a very light-hearted guide on how to get papped during the week. You know, without wearing four hundred LED lights or six of the most expensive designer bags on your arm..

Wear a photogenic outfit

Generally speaking, a fully black outfit can be pretty difficult to shoot, especially when the photographers only have a few seconds to catch 'the' shot. Colourful outfits or looks with prints and patterns can make an outfit look way more interesting than it actually is (sucks for us simplistic girls, eh?). Not only that, but it can also help you to stand out from a crowd of stylish fashion peeps, if that's what you're after. But, if you are more of a monochromatic gal like I am, embrace it. If you want to dress in a minimalistic way, commit to it and strip yourself of any flashy accessories that don't exactly 'fit' with what you're wearing. You never know, you might even stand out for just rocking up in a pair of ripped jeans and a t-shirt.

Pick a statement piece

Whether it's an over the top hat, this season's designer bag or just a funky iPhone case, photographers love taking 'candid' pictures of random people doing every day things. Detail shots practically go viral during Fashion Month, so it's a good idea to ensure you get a mani/pedi a few days before hand, and maybe load up on the rings and bracelets for the day. A plain black clutch may look amazing in person, but it's going to look pretty dull in a photograph unless you chuck on a few accessories here and there. Wearing fancy shoes (whether heeled or flat) can be an awesome way to express yourself without actually changing the way you dress. Again, just make sure you get a pedicure beforehand if you're going open-toed. Cracked nails don't look great in Vogue.

Mix up the fabrics you wear

I like to do this because I'm one of those really un-adventurous people that wear black near enough every day. Instead of wearing an entire outfit filled with cotton-based, matte, flat, black fabrics, I try to switch things up with a mixture of textures. This can work amazingly with colours and prints too, but I think it's pretty vital if you're a minimalist at heart. This also goes back to photographic outfits - if your look has a mix of textures it'll add interest to a photograph. If you can add in a layer of something that seems to float around your body like some form of amoeba, 100% do it. Movement in a photo looks awesome. [Side note: steer clear from movement that includes waving arms in the air like a deranged lunatic].

Wear the same outfits as your friends

Okay maybe not exactly the same, but having a little 'theme' going on with your friends can make for the perfect picture. If you're both struggling on what to wear, pick a colour scheme and go from there. Then you can walk around looking semi-twin-like and everyone will think you're cute as hell. Bonus points if you bring a man/boyfriend/male person along for the ride. They're kind of rare in the fashion crowd. Double bonus points if said man-friend is stylish and sexy.

Know where to be

People that stand outside the shows for hours on end may get a few snaps here and there, but soon those pictures will dry up. Why? Because photographers follow the fashion crowd. Now I'm not going to tell you guys to hang outside of every show going, but because in an area with something going on definitely does help. If you're really keen to get snapped, leave a show early (or late!) to give yourself a better chance of getting your picture taken. Just try not to hang around with all the fancy celebrities and editors - they might just go and steal your limelight (how rude). For Fashion Month, it's all about 'right place right time'. Basically I'm telling you to stalk a photographer until they take your photo..

Now obviously Fashion Week is more about the clothes and the designers than getting your photo taken, but hey, any publicity is good publicity, and we kinda have to accept that street style is a pretty big part of Fashion Month these days. Of course you can feel free to shy away from the camera like I often do (note: Harry Potter invisibility cloak definitely helps) but it's also completely fine to go out and show yourself off once in a while. I mean, some of the biggest European bloggers practically made a career out of doing just that, and that's totally and absolutely find! A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do, you know? And right now, this girls gotta sleep, cause under eye bags are just so unfashionable, darling.

Will you guys be going to London Fashion Week at all?

French Connection Slick Vic Sweater *
French Connection Marie Mini Skirt *
ASOS Faux Fur Clutch Bag
IKrush Strappy Stilettos *