Sorry for the lack of updates over the past week or so, but - given all of the atrocities that have happened recently - it didn't quite feel right for me to post photos of myself and talk about my own personal struggles whilst the rest of the world was suffering so much more than I could even imagine. It still doesn't feel right posting something like this even now, but, you know what they say, the show (albeit my 'show' being a one person and incredibly low budget one at that) must go on.
So I like to think that I'm a pretty open and honest person when it comes to you guys and this blog. I've spilled my guts up about suffering with depression, I've shown you guys my before and after Photoshop pictures, and I've even admitted to being a 'fake blogger' in the past. I've almost made it my mission to be as honest as possible, as often as possible, which is why I've decided to write this post today. So here goes!
For the past few months I've been under more pressure than ever before. I'm in my final year of University (which requires me to write almost forty thousand words in the next few months), I'm in the midst of publishing my own book (again, more words) and to top it all off I have somewhat of an internet life to maintain to my best ability (yep, words). Mix all of those things together in a big old (metaphorical) pot, throw in some modern day #firstworldproblems, add in a handful of generic 'young person expectations', sprinkle on a bad hair day and voila! I am officially a blubbering mess on the floor.
And whilst I'm able to joke about it all now, it wasn't so much of a laughing matter a few weeks ago. I was studying, blogging, freelancing, making a book, trying to maintain a social life, blah, blah, blah - all whilst suffering with a chest infection that just didn't seem to want to go away (still downing horrendous tasting cough syrup as I type this). In short, I had just taken on far too much for any normal twenty something. And why did I do that? It wasn't for the joy of doing it, nor was it because I even had to do it - all it came down to was the fact that I didn't want to be a failure. And so I locked myself in doors, stayed awake for three entire days, loaded up on caffeine and powered though a months worth of work in an attempt to get ahead. I repeat, I made myself ill, miserable and just downright exhausted all in the name of not wanting to feel like a failure. Hardly much of a success story, is it?
So anyway, here I am a week later finally feeling more like myself again, and - since I know a bunch of you are in uni like I am - I thought I'd share a few things that have helped me take time pressure off myself over the past seven days. The first tip? Whatever you do, don't attempt to stay awake for three days straight. No amount of black coffee or under eye concealer will save you.
Stop rushing - there's plenty of time!
Think about it, how many things on your 'to-do' list are actually time sensitive? Sure, you might have a few university deadlines and maybe you would like to get something accomplished by a certain date, but unless you absolutely have to do something within a certain amount of time there really is no point in putting pressure on yourself to do it. Seriously, hoovering the house and re-designing your entire blog can wait. Take a nap!
Cut out the crap and focus on what's important
Sometimes there's absolutely nothing wrong with doing the bare minimum. You know all those extra curricular things you can do in life? You don't have to do them if you don't want to. If you're finding it hard to blog every single day, don't! If you can manage it no problem at all, then go straight ahead. Everyone deals with things differently. so find your 'comfortable spot' and only venture out of it when you feel ready.
Talk to someone (honestly, it helps!)
You know how it goes - a problem shared is a problem halved. And whilst I hate that I've turned into one of those people that recite old sayings, in this situation it's actually pretty true. Whether it's a parent, a friend or whoever, just talking to someone about how you're feeling can make the situation a whole lot better for you.
Take everything one step at a time
Rome wasn't built in a day. In fact, Rome was probably built over a really long period of time with loads of planning and lots and lots of tea breaks. And whilst I'm sure you guys aren't planning on building an entire city any time soon (although props to you if you are) it's still a good idea to spread things out evenly. Try splitting your main goal up into lots of different steps. They'll be easier (and quicker) to achieve and you'll always feel like you accomplished something great.
Stop looking for approval from others
People are a pain in the ass to please (I know - I'm one of them!) so if you're looking to get approval from others for what you do then please, give up now. No matter how great you are, or how hard you try, you can never please everyone. Even attempting to do the above will only result in you feeling like a failure. Instead, try and focus on what makes you proud, and what makes you happy! Who cares if no one else likes it?
Forget about being perfect
Because let's face it - even with all of the Victoria Secret models and amazing celebrities that seem to do five million things in one day, no one in the world is actually, 100% perfect. Nope, not even Kendall Jenner.
How do you cope with feeling under pressure?