How to deal with haters and bullies on the internet

How to deal with bullies haters on the internet

I will admit, the picture above has no real relation to what I'm about to talk about, but let's pretend there's a seriously meaningful, er, meaning behind it. You see those sunglasses? They're blocking out the haters. You see me standing alone in the dark alley? That's a metaphor for how lonely bullying can make one feel. But the light at the end? That's another poetic metaphor for just that - there is light at the end of the tunnel!

Okay so I'm trying to make light of the situation, but we all know I'm never one for a super serious blog post. Either way, the topic of online bullying is something I'd like to address, in true, rambling Steph form.

I won't divulge into this too much, but I've been at the receiving end of both real life and internet bullying multiple times, probably just like most of you reading this! Last week I had a few comments regarding a certain blog post of mine, and they weren't exactly the nicest. No biggie. I mean, I like to think of myself as fairly thick-skinned (that saying always grosses me out for some reason) but a few months back it was enough to turn me into nothing short of an emotional wreck. In fact, that's probably an understatement. Now? Well, just call me the..hater see you later...er. Okay, I'll work on a better name, but you catch my drift. What I'm trying to say, is that when it comes to dealing with internet nasties, I like to think I've got a few tricks up my sleeve.

You know what they say - any press is good press. I mean, it's a little general, but it's pretty much true. If you're a good person (which I'm sure you all are!) the bad things being said are probably pretty inaccurate, which means you don't need to take personal notice of them anyway. For things like this, I like to think of it as the previous: it's all good press. If someone hates me enough to continuously come back to my site, then hell, I'll just go ahead and think of them as one extra unique visitor per day. It's a crappy thing to do (categorising people into being just a number, that is) but if it helps, I'm all for it. Just delete the nasty comments and subconsciously say thank you to the visitor for upping your analytics.

The next thing I like to do is to actually take the comments on board. Now obviously, if the comment is something along the lines of 'You're a *insert insult here* then please, feel free to block and delete that comment and person entirely. Bad vibes are not where it's at. But when it's a comment with a purpose, even if it's one that's not worded in the kindest way, I do like to take a little time to actually consider what these people are saying. Once upon a time I had someone tell me my videos on Youtube were too long and boring. Ouch. But hey, if they were thinking it (and happened to say it too) then maybe others were as well. And maybe they were just too polite to say anything about it. So I took that on as creative criticism, and voila! On the next video they complimented me and even apologised about the comment the time before. Score.

This leads me onto another way to deal with online bullies. Kill them with kindness. I said this on a Twitter chat the other night, and so many people agreed. Remember when your parents told you ignore the bullies? I was never very good at that. In fact, I'm still not very good at that, only now - instead of getting angry - I get friendly. Seriously friendly. If bullies (both online and off) don't get a negative reaction, they'll soon stop having fun. It's your blog/website/Youtube/whatever, and they're the ones encroaching on your little space. Have some fun of your own. Smiley faced emojis are my secret weapon. 

Now obviously one way to get rid of trolls is to delete them and/or simply ignore them, but let's face it, once you've seen a nasty message you may as well have it imprinted on your forehead for the rest of the day. One way that I've found to decrease the amount of negative comments even popping up on my blog is to address pretty much every issue imaginable in that one blog post. I mean, take this post for example. I'll be the first to admit that I am no psychology genius nor am I a poster-girl for anti-bullying. I blog, these are my thoughts, and that's pretty much all this blog is ever for (and the odd blog post about how much I effing love leather jackets). I tend to tackle any negative issues straight up, so that when/if anyone trolls the comments saying the same thing, I'm prepared for it. I know my downfalls, I know there's probably eighteen different typos in here and I'm fully aware that I've probably said something stupid within the past few paragraphs. Guilty as charged. So just as long as I'm aware, these commenters can't hurt me. Sticks and stones my friends, stick and stones...

How do you deal with the h8rs?

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ASOS faux leather trousers
Forever 21 mules *
Ray-Ban sunglasses *
Forever 21 trio bag *

100 blog post ideas to help kick that creative block

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In the blogging world there can be days when one minute you're full to the brim with blog post ideas, and the next you've got complete writers block. I've only ever seen a few blog posts like this for the fashion and beauty world, so I've decided to jot down some ideas over the past few weeks to help you lovely lot out - and maybe kick my own ass into gear. Get your copy and paste on!

 

1. Five things to be happy about
2. Favourite blogs of the month
3. Facts about yourself
4. Outfit of the day
5. Makeup collection
6. A competition/giveaway
7. Blogging advice
8. Fashion wish list
9. Exercise tips
10. Fashion/beauty haul
11. Book review
12. Favourite Instagram accounts
13. 'How to style' outfit posts
14. Product reviews
15. Room tour
16. Host a guest post
17. What's in your bag
18. Photography tips
19. Facts about yourself
20. What's on your phone
21. Host a Q+A
22. Favourite podcasts
23. An interview with a blogger
24. Interior inspiration
25. A news story
26. Products worth the hype
27. A DIY / how to
28. Healthy snack recipe
29. Pay-day shopping picks
30. A fashion show review
31. A story about yourself
32. A list post (kinda like this!)
33. A rant (it feels good!)
34. Your favourite beauty products
35. A list of your dreams and goals
36. A tag post (TMI tag, etc)
37. A post on your friend/partners style
38. Your every day makeup routine
39. College/University advice
40. A before and after post
41. An Instagram roundup
42. A 30 day challenge
43. A review of a place
45. A controversial opinion
46. Your hair history
47. A 'get the look' style post
48. What's in your makeup bag
49. Monthly favourites
50. Details of your home
51. Your food diary
52. An empty products review
53. Your handbag collection
54. The reason you started blogging
55. A makeup tutorial
56. Share some positivity
57. Ask your readers a question
58. Places to visit where you live
59. Your favourite apps
60. A 'day in the life' style post
61. Offer a service
62. A list of life hacks
63. Must-have items
64. Empty product reviews
65. Share your work space
66. Round up your outfits this month
67. Style inspiration post
68. How you stay organised
69. A movie review
70. Favourite street style looks
71. A birthday/anniversary post
72. Share your favourite blog posts
73. A get ready with me post
74. 5 things you couldn't live without
75. Job interview tips
76. Behind the scenes photos
77. A brand focus
78. An event you've been to
79. Your opinion on a trend
80. Save Vs splurge
81. How to de-stress
82. An open letter to someone
83. A 'who wore it best?' post
84. How to gain followers on Instagram
85. How to start Youtube channel
86. What blogging has taught you
87. Blogger bloopers (I dare you)
89. Your shoe collection
90. Affordable homeware ideas
91. Your experience at school
92. How to promote your blog
93. An eBay wishlist
94. Face of the day
95. Ways on how to procrastinate
96. Blogging dos and don'ts
97. Beauty hacks
98. How to get motivated
99. Things to do when you're sad
100. Your five year plan

 

Let me know if you have any blog post ideas!?

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UK fashion and beauty blog


The A to Z guide to blogging terminology you need to know

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You know what? I like this style of post - it makes a change from just talking about my outfit and stuff. I'd love to have a fancy story to tell you about my day, but hey, who needs a twelve paragraph-long blog post on how many episodes of Breaking Bad I re-watched on Netflix today? I mean I could do that, if you really wanted, but right now I feel like I have something ever so slightly more useful to discuss: blogger terminology. Not just acronyms for Thank God It's Friday (TGIF, FYI) but more technical things like Domain Authority and SEO. Exciting stuff, right!? Trust me, it all becomes a little addictive once you get into it.

Affiliate marketing: This is one of the ways bloggers can make a little bit of money on their site, by using a special link that directs to a shop of sorts. If someone clicks it, or buys something using that link (in a period of time) that blogger can earn a commission!

Alt text: This is generally something that helps Google understand your image better, and can be applied to an image via HTML (see below) using the coding <img alt="...">. In short, the purpose of this tag is to describe the image so that Google can read it, and categorise it should your image not show up properly. I also like to name my files when saving, to help my good friend Googs (we're on nickname terms now) that little bit more.

Anchor text: These are the words use when creating a link. For example if I cheekily link you to my last outfit post, the anchor text here is the word 'outfit'. The best anchor text to use in terms of SEO (see below) are words that relate to the page you're linking to. So you know, try not to link to your favourite pair of shoes using the words 'these r r8 gd'..it's probably not going to work out amazingly.

Blogroll: This is usually where people link to their friend's blogs or their favourite blogs. You can see my blogroll here for an example. It's just a nice way to share the love!

Bounce rate: This is the percentage of people came to your blog and only viewed one page. It's not the most important thing in the world, but generally, the lower the better.

Captcha: AKA those really annoying numbers/letters that you get asked to copy when trying to write a comment or entering different details onto a website. It's a way of the internet making sure we're human. FYI, I am.

Conversion rate: This is the percentage of visitors who actually do something on your page, such as signing up for a newsletter or downloading an app.

CSS: For me, CSS is like the uglier, nastier sister of HTML. I hate it. But, it is useful to get to grips with. CSS is an acronym for Cascading Style Sheets, which is just a fancy way of describing the look and format of a document - AKA a website. It's my least favourite thing.

Domain Authority: Also known as DA, this is essentially the new Page Rank, which Google no longer takes into account. Domain Authority is based on age, popularity and size of the domain name/URL. The higher the number, the better. You can check your Domain Authority here.

Favicon: See that little star in the web address bar? That's my favicon. People often have a logo or recognisable image for their brand - I chose a star because it looks pretty.

Hyperlink: Hyperlink is just a fancy word for your bog standard link. It's just clickable content that usually directs you to another page or website.

HTML: I'm one of those really annoying people that love HTML, yet I hate that evil thing called CSS. HTML is short for Hyper Text Markup Language, and it's the standard coding that most/all websites are built upon. It does everything from make text bold to making random pictures fly around your screen. All the fun.

Meta Description: Ever seen this when uploading a new page or blog post? It's good to fill in if you can. A good description (approx. two sentences or so) should contain targetted keywords and phrases that will bring more people to your site. Yay!

Meta Tags: You guessed it! They're pretty similar to the above, only it's a combination of meta titles, descriptions and keywords. It helps provide information about your website/blog to search engines, meaning you'll get categorised a lot better.

Nofollow links: This does what it says on the tin. Nofollow links tell search engines not to take note of the link you're using. Your link is still completely valid, only you won't pass on any SEO to the site you're linking out to. If you're getting paid to link out to someone, keep it nofollow.

PPC: Is short for Pay Per Click. This is something I like to use as it ensures a few pennies come in (and I really am talking pennies) each day for me. It's usually a link or add that pays the publisher every time someone clicks on it. Shopstyle are a good example of this!

Permalink: A permalink is the link to specific posts. So it would be something like www.cocochicblog.co.uk/this-is-a-permalink. Got it? Good.

Rate card: This can be either a webpage or a document you keep to yourself, but it's a little card/page that outlines different prices for advertising/sponsored posts etc. I wrote a little bit about how much to charge for blog posts here (shameless plug yolo).

Responsive design: This is actually something Google are now paying attention to. A responsive design is something that works on a variety of different devices. If it's responsive, your site will change itself to suit something like an iPad or iPhone.

RSS: Another acronym! This one's short for Really Short Syndication, and it's basically a way that people can subscribe to your blog/posts so that they can stay on top of whatever you're churning out!

SEO: Ah, Search Engine Optimisation! We have a bit of a love/hate relationship here. SEO consists of a variety of techniques used to increase the amount of traffic to a website by having a high ranking placement on the likes of Google, Bing etc. Good SEO = being higher up on a search engine. And that means? Lots of good stuff.

Aaaaaand breathe. Okay. So for any of you that just wanted to find out what I was wearing, sorry for all the text (and scroll down for the outfit details), but either way I hope this helped out a few of you. I'm bound to have missed something/got something wrong somewhere, so feel free to pick me up on it!

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Superdry X Timothy Everest town coat *
Forever 21 white tee *
French Connection white trousers *
Superga leather trainers *

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How much should you charge for sponsored blog posts?

How much should you charge for blog posts and how to set your rates

Sorry for the later upload, but I've spent a lot of my evening talking to the wonderful bloggers on the #fblchat hashtag on Twitter! Tonight's discussion was all about how to transition from a 9-5 job to a full-time blogger (which will be the topic of next week) and - since the two are linked up quite nicely - I decided to wait until the end of our chat to get this post up.

So alas! The golden question. How much should you really be charging for your sponsored blog posts? Now obviously if you're in The Blonde Salad or Zoella sort of territory, you can pretty much charge whatever you like, so let's keep this all quite realistic because - let's face it - if you were already making six figures a post, you wouldn't really be here, would you?

For ages I've just been plucking random numbers out of my head, or taking whatever brands gave me, until I spoke to a few blogger friends that made me realise I was possibly charging the wrong amount for different things. I was underselling myself, in other words. 

A few months ago I was asked for my rate card...I mean what!? Why would I - just a small town girl (living in a lonely woooorld) have a freakin' rate card? To act as a guideline for PRs, that's why. 

Now obviously you're not going to have one flat rate for absolutely everything you do. Sometimes brands want a lot of social push to go alongside the post and sometimes PRs want a dedicated feature that doesn't include any competitors, which means you're going to need to work out your 'hourly rate' to coincide with the type of post that needs to be done. Sounds like fun, right!? No. No it's not. So to save you lovely lot some time I've decided to make a little table for you that will hopefully give you an idea about what to charge. It's not set in stone (by all means, ignore it completely!) but it's the sort of thing I go by.

*Update: Google no longer updates their Page Rank. This blog post has been adjusted accordingly!

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Again, don't take this thing too seriously - I'm definitely not a pro when it comes to working out exactly what is right. But after looking at a bunch of different bloggers and their rate cards/price lists it all sort of averaged out at this - and I mean that very, very loosely.

For my little rate card, I go by the above table as well as my social reach and quality of what I do. If you have a special skill, be sure to add in a bit of extra dollar for that, as you'll need to be covering the cost of both your time and expertise. If you happen to have hundreds of thousands of Instagram followers, factor that in too. Basically, find that one (or two, or three!) thing(s) that makes you stand out from everyone else, and cater your price to that.

Aaaand breathe. Anyway. I hope this maybe helped some of you out there, and obviously feel free to put in your own points of view to help any one else out that might read the comments (or even help me out, pls). Stay tuned for the next Tip Tuesday!

Do you have any tips about how much to charge for a blog post?

UK Fashion & Beauty Blogger Cocochic

How to score your dream fashion internship

How to score your dream fashion magazine internship

So, about that news that I mentioned last week. I could pretend to act all cool about this and make out that it's hardly a big deal, but uh, GUESS WHO'S AN ONLINE CONTRIBUTOR FOR COMPANY MAGAZINE. Me, that's who. No biggie. Ahem.

Anyway, after interning with Company last week it's safe to say it all went pretty smoothly, and since this is this is perhaps my fifth internship I've decided to share with you some secrets that I may have picked up along the way. Hopefully they'll help you score your dream internship..and maybe even your dream job!?

THE RESUMÉ

They say it's not about what you know, but who you know, and whilst that may be kind of true in the fashion industry, it's not the be all and end all. When I first landed an internship the only semi-related things I had on my CV were my Tumblr account and a few pieces of College work that were seriously outdated. So if - like me at that time - you really don't think you have anything crazy outstanding to shout about, think again. It may not be a qualification or anything on paper, but even mentioning your hobbies and how they've sculpted you as a real life human being (!!) will help with your chances. I always like to include a 'personal' section on my CV that enlists a bunch of things that I'm proud of, and what skills I've gained from them. If possible, try and actually demonstrate them on your resumé if you can. Great at graphic design? Make it look that way! I can't think of anything worse than reading 500 applications written out in Arial font, so make something that you're actually proud of. If you're not super qualified, at least make it look like you are.

THE COVER LETTER

So this is the place where it's time to shine. If there's one thing you take away from this, it's to make sure that you make your cover letter personal to the company/organisation you're contacting. Find out the name of the person you're writing to, research the company and be sure to include some opinions and reasons as to why you actually want to work there.

Sounds a little boring though, right? I don't know if it's a general rule, or if I've just been lucky, but my most successful applications have included more light-hearted, personal information about myself. In fact, about two emails into chatting with the deputy editor of Company I decided to bring up my love for cats. Lolz. Now I wouldn't suggest caps-locking your ULTIMATE LOVE FOR RYAN GOSLING in an email to Anna Wintour, but it won't cause any harm to include a little bit about you - not just the work your produce blah blah blah. Again, it's all about standing out from a crowd of countless other applicants.

THE FOLLOW UP EMAIL

Unless you're a crazy pro (which if you are, why are you reading this!?) the chances of you getting every internship you've ever applied for is pretty unlikely, so expect some not-so-positive emails. In fact, expect to not even receive replies sometimes. I mean hell, I feel pretty busy sitting here writing this blog post, so just imagine how busy some of these editors are!

One thing I always like to do is create a follow up email a few weeks after applying, just to check up on whether or not they received my application (it's basically a polite way of pestering). If they don't reply, no harm done, but more often than not I'll get a reply shortly after, to which you can strike up a conversation.

Like I said, no one is going to get every internship they've ever dreamed of, but that doesn't mean it was a waste of your time applying. If you didn't get the job of your dreams, simply ask why! It seems a little daunting at first (and almost like a U WOT M8 kind of situ) but most people are happy to point you in the right direction, especially if they know how eager you are. I once applied for one internship, got declined, upped my cover letter game, came back and got through almost instantly! Just because you get declined, it doesn't mean you're banned from the halls of *insert organisation here* for the rest of time.

THE PORTFOLIO

So this varies depending on what it is you actually 'do' - for example, we all know I'm a bit of an online person (because real life is for l0zerz) so whenever I'm trying to showcase my work I'll always try to make a personalised website for that company. Even if it's just a Tumblr page or Wordpress featuring your work, going that extra mile will always look good on your application.
 

Hope this helps some of you! Shoot me any other questions in the comments below.
 

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