So last week I made a blog post all about those times when you just don't feel good enough, because - quite frankly - at that moment in time I wasn't feeling my best. I was pretty nervous about publishing it considering things got fairly personal, but oh am I glad I did - not just \ because you guys seemed to enjoy it but also because you all - surprisingly enough - seemed to relate to it as well. But then it got me thinking..why wouldn't you relate to it? We're all very real human beings living in the same digital era that practically shoves 'perfect' in our faces 24/7. Come on, If you throw Victoria's Secret models in someone's face continuously (although maybe not literally..ouch) of course they're going to start questioning their looks. I mean, have you seen how perfect their hair is? Have you!?
Anyway, I digress. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that, no matter who you are and what you look like, everyone feels self conscious at least some point in their life. It could be something as simple as opening up Instagram and wishing you had one of those 'squat girl' asses, or something more long-term that effects practically ever minute of your day. I've had both (probably like you as well) and, to put it bluntly, there are no quick fixes, but there is a way (or multiple ways!) of making things a little easier on yourself. I may not be quite VS model standards just yet - or ever - but hey, I'm feeling a lot better about this 5'3 frame than I was a few years ago. In fact, maybe even ever!? Here are a few things I've picked up along the way.
Learn to accept yourself
Granted, this is a lot easier said than done, but it's pretty much the grounds for feeling better about anything in life. Sure, I'd love to be about four inches taller and have abs of steel, but I've come to accept the fact that I'm never gonna grow and I'm never going to be able to give up cake. For years I've been striving to be a slim, slender goddess but that's not how my body is supposed to be. I'm slim, sure, but I've got big boobs and ridiculous big biceps for someone my size (seriously, I dare you to challenge me to an arm wrestle). I now go to the gym to tone the body that I naturally have, as opposed to trying to shed every bit of fat on my body - which BTW is pretty difficult when you eat around 48 cupcakes a day. I changed my 'goal' to something more realistic, and in turn I made things a lot easier for myself, both physically and mentally.
Give your body what it wants
My. Body. Wants. Cake. Lots of it. Now don't get me wrong here - I'm fully aware it doesn't actually need cake, but man, do I like it. Like I said before, I've tried countless diets in the past. Some of them worked in terms of weight loss, some of them didn't. None of them, however, worked into my way of life. Now, I eat healthy (ish), go to the gym regularly and eat crap food when I'm craving it. I'm maintaining weight, staying healthy and I'm also treating myself. A lot.
Surround yourself with positive things
If a picture in a fashion magazine can change the way you feel about yourself, imagine how much a real life person can effect the way you think. No matter what it is that tends to make you feel bad about yourself, try and stay away from it. It could mean saying goodbye to someone in your life, or it could mean simply unfollowing someone online. If it gives you more negative feelings that positive, it has no place in your life.
Embrace imperfections (we all have them)
No single person on this earth is perfect. People say Rosie Huntington Whitely's lips are too big, Angelina Jolie is too skinny and Megan Fox has dwarfed thumbs, yet these three women are still considered as some of the most beautiful in the world. I have a bump on my nose I'd like to get rid of, and my teeth are probably a bit too big for my mouth, but I'm pretty sure I'm the only person that really worries (let alone notices) about that. Once upon a time I was bullied about my big old eyebrows, but then I started embracing them and hey look! They're now one of the first things someone notices about me, in a good way. Imagine if we all had the same perfect noses and perfect white teeth? Meh, we'd still find something to complain about.
Stop trying to impress others
We all know that 'big ass' look is trending right now, right? Well that's great and all, but what about those girls that don't want / can't get a big old booty? Should they instantly feel like less of a person just because their back-end is half the size of someone elses? Nnnnnno. If you want a big ass, go for it, if you don't, that's cool too, but feeling like you should have something because someone else does is never a good way to go, especially when it's in regards to your body. Since we only have one, we should probably look after it, not stretch it and shape it to whatever look is trending at that moment in time. If someone doesn't like your small ass, screw em, learn to love your own tiny tush.
And on that note, I hope this helped some of you guys! As always, if you have anything else to add, feel free to let it all out in the comments section down below.